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Friday, May 15, 2009

Fighting Sioux

There's been an ongoing controversy about the University of North Dakota's nickname - the Fighting Sioux. Yesterday, the North Dakota Board of Higher Education voted to set an Oct. 1 deadline to stop using the name. The president of the board said this issue has been a distraction for too long. Has it ever!

My older brother attended UND. I was only 13 or so when he graduated. I never thought much about the nickname. Growing up in Duluth, I was a huge UMD hockey fan - the Bulldogs. I really didn't like the Sioux during those years because they were better than the 'Dogs and usually had a winning record against them.

What I do remember specifically from those games was the fact that the crowd would change the last word of the national anthem to "Sioux." So... "land of the free, and the home of the Sioux." One might think that after 9/11 this tradition would be frowned upon, but they still do it at every game. (Even if they are the visiting team which just bothered me in a practical sense.) I consider myself patriotic, but not crazy about it. I learned how to properly fold a flag and I would never let it touch the ground. I hate seeing a torn flag waving in the breeze, but I don't freak out if someone uses flag burning in a demonstration. The fact that a lot of people who would want to ban flag burning are the same people yelling "Sioux" at the end of the anthem has always bothered me.

UND got a new hockey arena in 2001
. It was a big deal. Hockey is a big deal in Grand Forks. Probably because the weather supports it 10 months out of the year, and there isn't much else to do. I went to the first game at the arena. My dad was on the board of the Hockey Hall of Fame then. It was a fundraiser for them. I think the Sioux played the Gophers, but I really can't remember. I hold a very vivid picture, however, of the arena itself. It reminded me of a mini Excel center. Same format for seating, same lighting around the inside ring. I didn't see the locker rooms, but apparently the "backstage" of the place was the most amazing.

The arena was built by Ralph Engelstad. He died a few years ago, but he was on the ice that opening night in an old shirt and dirty tennis shoes. Not particularly concerned with fashion, he was very passionate about UND. As I remember it, he tried to walk on as a goalie, but was never really successful. When he became wealthy in the casino business, he decided to give back to the school by financing this arena. He built it off-campus so that they could serve beer and so that a foundation could run it instead of the university itself. He also demanded that thousands of Sioux logos be built into every piece of the structure. The floor, the pillars, the bathroom walls - there are Sioux logos everywhere! Ralph didn't do this for aesthetics. He did it because the argument over the logo was hot even then & he wanted to make someone work really hard and pay a lot of money to remove that logo from his building should it ever come to that. His money paid for the arena so he could dictate every single one of those logos, but the feeling inside that space made me sick. Every logo carved into marble was put there out of spite. Ralph didn't think there was a reason to drop the logo - the Indian nations were over-reacting. And he was going to use the power of his cash to show them that.

My favorite argument for this has been, "Well, I'm Norwegian, should I be offended by the Vikings?" My answer is yes! Yes if you consider the Viking profile sacred and would truly be hurt by people walking across an image of it, then you should be mad as hell! But I suspect you aren't. I suspect you aren't mad because the Viking is really not a symbol of a sacred culture that has been stampeded, killed and abused for centuries (at least not by the dominant culture in this country). The comparison is not a valid one because there aren't Norwegians who truly feel racism in the logo of our pro football team. If there are, then they need to get organized and make themselves a little louder.

The Spirit Lake nation has decided to support the use of the Sioux logo. The Standing Rock tribe has said no, and says they won't change their position before the Oct. 1 deadline. I completely back both of these decisions because they were made by the people who are invested. Honestly, I hope the Standing Rock tribe doesn't back down. The fact that we've been having this conversation for more than 10 years proves that there's something to it. If there weren't, it would be another Vikings situation. But because there is something wrong with the image of the Sioux logo, the conversation has continued. There is a minority society that has made themselves heard and steadfastly protested the use of their image. We've heard them and ignored them. But, I'd like to think that in 2009 we could recognize how our treatment perpetuates hatred and racism. There's no place for the Ralph Engelstad attitude. We've come further than that and we are better than that.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Mom Tweets

I follow a lot of different people on Twitter. (If you don't know what Twitter is, you may want to read this before going any further). I read posts from different types of people from different worlds that interest me - interactive, marketing, business, celebrity and parenting are some of my favorite topics.

We Twitterers are still in the minority. It's become a very popular tool for many "web geeks" out there, but it's definitely not mainstream. I even had a discussion at work today on whether or not Twitter is valuable - and I work with web geeks! What draws me to Twitter (or Facebook for that matter) are the connections. We all know how Facebook is connecting people all the time & helping us all find those long-lost boyfriends. Twitter is similar, but it allows me to find new people and create new connections.

I follow a very smart and talented woman named Ms. Rezai (http://twitter.com/ms_rezai). She lives here in Minneapolis and also works with web geeks, but we have never met in person. I started following her based on a recommendation. Her company has done work for my old company, I worked with her boss years and years ago, and we share many friends. The truth is that the Mpls interactive community is really quite small - rarely does anyone get past 2 degrees of separation. Ms. Rezai has a new baby and a 5 year old. So as you can see - web, kids - we have a few things in common.

Last week Ms. Rezai posted, "?s I am being asked: 'What if the world was all monkeys? What if the world was made of chocolate?' Can I go back to work? I know more there" My first reading of this made me laugh out loud (her 5 yr. old comes up with some great comments!). A few days later I went back to find the post and mark it as a "favorite" so that I could easily find it again. Today I quoted this post while discussing working moms. I've always thought being a stay-at-home mom would be the hardest job in the world. I know I'm just not cut out for it. This short snippet from another mom's life captured an emotion I feel quite often. And it did so in less than 140 characters!

These two separate conversations today pulled it into focus for me. This is why I tweet. This is why I check Facebook regularly. This is why I love social media. Reading this thought from another mom not only made me laugh, it validated my working-mom feelings which, let's just admit, can include a whole lot of guilt. I'll meet Ms. Rezai in person eventually I am sure, but just knowing she - and many moms like her - are out there makes me feel good. I like knowing they are just a few clicks away.


Monday, March 02, 2009

Enjoying Cancun

We landed in Cancun last night just as the sun was setting. The first thing we noticed - it was a little chilly! The wind was blowing something fierce, and the temp was in the 60's. Still felt fabulous for us, but we laughed when we saw the airport staff actually shivering.

This morning was warmer, but the wind was still working overtime. We spent some time on our private balcony - SPF 50 applied generously! We also went for a long walk down the street - felt a lot like Vegas. Just one hotel after another. A few of them are closed - still repairing damage from Hurricane Wilma, we assume.

This is the view from our balcony - looking out over the pool. And then Pat went out to surf the waves a bit.

Tomorrow is more of the same. Sun. Relax. Eat. Repeat.



Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Please watch this Ellen clip

It will make you laugh. Out loud. A lot.


Monday, January 19, 2009

Best Friends

This is a perfect story for the mood of the country right now. I hope it lasts.



P.S. I was tipped off to this video over at www.dooce.com.